If you are starting the mediation process in your divorce, you do not want to go into the mediation without any preparation. Here are some tips that will help the process go smoothly.
Don't Have A Mindset To Win
A common mistake people make when they start mediation is that they have this thought that they need to somehow win their divorce mediation. This means either they want to get something out of it that is very specific, they want to hurt their spouse in the process, or something else similar in nature. This is the wrong mindset to have when entering divorce mediation.
You'll want to enter mediation with a mindset to compromise. The goal of mediation is to come together and reach an agreement on the terms of your divorce that you both can be happy with and avoid having it go to trial, which will be lengthy and costly. If you think that you need to somehow win during mediation, you're going to lose.
Leave Emotions At The Door
While a divorce is a very emotional experience to go through, many people get wrapped up in the emotional aspect of ending their marriage and forget what mediation is about. For as much as you once had an emotional connection with your partner, you need to understand that you entered a legal agreement that is now ending, and many things need to be decided on to formalize the end of that agreement. Enter with a mindset to think rationally rather than emotionally, and you'll do far better in the end.
Look At Your Assets As A Whole
It is important to make a list of the shared assets as a whole when making a decision about how to divide them. Many people will take things on one at a time and not look at the bigger picture when making rational decisions and compromising. One partner may be focused on a home or a vehicle and cause them to not care about other assets like retirement accounts or dealing with shared debt. You need to look at everything as a whole when making decisions about fair compromises.
Make Your Own Priority List
With a list of things that need to be decided in mediation, you'll want to prioritize that list so that you do not lose sight of what is important to you. If you're focused on receiving enough alimony to live comfortably after the divorce, then you should put that at the top of your list to remind you when making compromises.
For more assistance, speak with a professional that can mediate divorce.